Friday the 13th: Myths, Lilith, Black Cats & the Power of the Dark Feminine

Every time Friday the 13th rolls around, people tense up.

Flights get rescheduled.
Plans get postponed.
Superstitions start trending.

But what if this day isn’t unlucky at all?

What if Friday the 13th is actually one of the most misunderstood portals of feminine power, independence, and mysticism?

Let’s talk about it.

Why Is Friday the 13th Considered “Unlucky”?

The fear around Friday the 13th largely stems from Western superstition and religious folklore.

The number 13 has long been considered “irregular” or disruptive. In Christianity, there were 13 people at the Last Supper before the crucifixion of Jesus. Friday was also traditionally associated with misfortune because it was believed to be the day of the crucifixion.

But here’s the thing: before fear was attached to it, 13 was sacred.

There are 13 lunar cycles in a year.
Many ancient cultures honored 13 as a number of divine feminine power tied to the moon, menstruation, and creation.

Friday itself is named after Frigg (also associated with Freya), a Norse goddess of love, fertility, and magic.

So Friday the 13th may have once symbolized feminine power — not misfortune.

Lilith & the Dark Feminine

When we talk about misunderstood feminine energy, we have to talk about Lilith.

In ancient Mesopotamian mythology, Lilith was later adapted into Jewish folklore as Adam’s first wife — a woman who refused to submit and chose exile over obedience. Because she would not be controlled, she was labeled dangerous, seductive, and demonic.

Sound familiar?

The “dark feminine” isn’t evil. It represents:

• Autonomy

• Sexual sovereignty

• Boundaries

• Emotional depth

• Intuition

• Power that doesn’t ask permission

Friday the 13th carries that same archetype energy. It’s a day that challenges systems rooted in control and fear — especially fear of feminine independence.

Black Cats: Bad Luck or Sacred Companions?

Black cats are one of the most iconic symbols of Friday the 13th.

But historically, they weren’t always seen as bad omens.

In ancient Egypt, cats were sacred. In fact, they were associated with the goddess Bastet, who represented protection, fertility, and feminine strength.

It wasn’t until medieval Europe — during the witch hunts — that black cats became linked to witchcraft and “evil.” They were believed to be familiars or spiritual companions to women practicing magic.

Notice the pattern?

Independent women.
Intuitive women.
Spiritually powerful women.

Rebranded as dangerous.

Friday the 13th & Valentine’s Day: Love and Liberation

It’s also interesting that Friday the 13th is landing right before Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day celebrates romantic love. But Friday the 13th reminds us of something deeper: self-sovereignty.

Before you give love, you must own yourself.
Before you merge, you must be whole.

The dark feminine teaches:

• Love without losing yourself

• Desire without shame

• Boundaries without apology

This weekend holds a powerful contrast:
The sacred lover- The sovereign woman

Both are necessary.

Reclaiming the Day

Instead of fearing Friday the 13th, what if you used it intentionally?

You could:

• Journal about where you’ve been shrinking yourself

• Reflect on where you’re trying to control instead of trust

• Honor your intuition

• Light a candle for feminine strength

• Release old narratives about being “too much”

Friday the 13th isn’t unlucky.

It’s disruptive to fear-based systems.

And disruption is often the beginning of awakening.

Final Reflection

The number 13 is lunar.
Friday is feminine.
Black cats are protectors.
Lilith is sovereign.

Maybe this day was never cursed.

Maybe it was powerful — and power is always misunderstood before it’s respected.

Happy Friday the 13th 🖤
May you embrace every layer of your magic — light and dark.